For most codependents the weekend is not something we look forward too. For many of us, it means dressing in our "defensive controlling mode." Our gut tells us the addict is always in control, but denial tells us to ignore our instincts. We try to change our loved...

No if, ands, or buts about it! We cannot work the 12-Steps for anyone else! We have to walk our own Steps to recovery and allow others the dignity to step up for themselves. How many times have we stifled our personal growth to help another? Helping is not a bad...

There is always Hope. One Step at a Time. Step Two, The light behind the clouds. Step Three, Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine! In Me. In You! “Here’s another way to put it: You’re here to be light, bringing out the God-colors in the world. God is not a secret...

- - - but oh, not so easy to do! DETACH WITH LOVE. We hear it at meetings, from sponsors, friends, relatives, but until we are confronted with an in-my-face crisis, we cannot assume to know what someone else is going through. When it comes to "letting go and " of a...

January 2019 NCAM draws to an end. With the help of the 12-Steps, my goal was and is to reclaim the wholeness of who I am - the goodness of who we all are. Following the principles of the Steps gives me the will to spread the word so others will heal. Another healing...

There is a better way of living. And it begins with the First Step. I pray you have the courage to stand up and take that step. It begins with you. Have you come to the place where you are ready to admit you are powerless? Besides finding physical nourishment, there...

Remember yesterday’s post? Well, I'm here to tell you after years of accepting blame, shame, and guilt the untrue negative message we tell ourselves won't go away in one day. What will help us move forward is being involved in 12-Step support groups, having a...

As we near the end of this year's National Codependency Awareness Month, I know God has my back. No more guilt. No more blame. And no more shame. He is showing me how to believe in me. Now that's the kind of Power only He can give. Yahoo! Thanks to my Higher Power,...

I cannot cure my own co-addiction, but I am determined to challenge my enabling behaviors. And that my friends, begins with Step One. I really do admit I am powerless over others. And when I don't work my program-my life is unmanageable. Thanks to this new awareness,...

I may be powerless over addictions, but I have and will continue to set healthy boundaries. Thanks to 12-Step support groups, I will persist, regroup, and get back in step with the capable person I know I am. We're working the Steps. We're keeping our boundaries....