In my search to develop stronger listening skills, I am uncovering the secrets of silence.

As I practice the art of listening, I find I have more respect for what the other person is really saying.

I didn’t say I always agree, but I do try to appreciate their point of view.

For me, this is not as easy as it sounds. Like most people, while the other person is talking, I am already forming a rebuttal or, “I know how to do it better” suggestion.


This much I have learned,  It’s stupid and embarrassing to give an answer before you listen (Proverbs 18:13 CEV).


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1.      The quieter you become the more you can hear.

2.      The world gives us answers every day. We have to learn the skill of listening.

3.      Most of us don’t listen to understand, we listen with the intent to respond. We think we have to have a quick comeback.

4.      Your first instinct is usually right. Take time. Listen and think about the situation.

5.      To respect someone is to listen, really listen to what they are saying.

6.      Speech is silver. Silence is golden. Discretion is more valuable than the most eloquent words

7.      I am a Quaker – in case of emergency, please be quiet.

“The less form in religion the better, since God is a Spirit; . . . the more silent, the more suitable to the language of a Spirit.” William Penn