Our New DNA – Detach Not Abandon – Discover New Alternatives!

I won’t lie to you. My effort to stop controlling and fixing others has been a long, hard process. I have followed the steps, attended meetings, written codependent self-help articles, and still face challenges when it comes to detachment.
That is why I often refer to the Detach Not Abandon guidelines listed below. Beginning with guilt. For me, guilt is a killer. It kills my hope. Guilt whispers in my ear, and if I allow it, guilt will blame me for what I do, and condemn me for what I failed to do.
Just for today, let’s work on disengaging from the lies guilt tries to inject into every reflection.
We can only keep one thought in our head at a time. Make it a positive one!

 

       DETACH

Disengage from guilt

Evaluate future growth

Transfer responsibility to rightful owner

Activate my independence

Cultivate new behaviors

Healthy boundaries

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      NOT

Nurture

Openness

Truth

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   ABANDON

Adapt

Balance roles

Accept self

Neutralize guilt

Dignity restored

Obey inner voice

Nourish new options

© 2014 Diane M. Jellen

 

“And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free” (John 8:32 NLT).