Our New DNA – Detach Not Abandon – Discover New Alternatives!
I won’t lie to you. My effort to stop controlling and fixing others has been a long, hard process. I have followed the steps, attended meetings, written codependent self-help articles, and still face challenges when it comes to detachment.
That is why I often refer to the Detach Not Abandon guidelines listed below. Beginning with guilt. For me, guilt is a killer. It kills my hope. Guilt whispers in my ear, and if I allow it, guilt will blame me for what I do, and condemn me for what I failed to do.
Just for today, let’s work on disengaging from the lies guilt tries to inject into every reflection.
We can only keep one thought in our head at a time. Make it a positive one!
DETACH
Disengage from guilt
Evaluate future growth
Transfer responsibility to rightful owner
Activate my independence
Cultivate new behaviors
Healthy boundaries
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NOT
Nurture
Openness
Truth
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ABANDON
Adapt
Balance roles
Accept self
Neutralize guilt
Dignity restored
Obey inner voice
Nourish new options
© 2014 Diane M. Jellen
