Before Al-Anon, TGIF meant it was time to put on the party clothes and hit the local taproom with my spouse. Funny thing, I used to look forward to the weekends until they became unmanageable. It was then I realized I had my own problem to deal with. The self-delusion believing I could control or cure someone else’s drinking proved how little I understood about the disease of addiction.

It wasn’t long before my Woo Hoo its Friday feelings shifted from party mode to miserable. Not one to give up, I told myself, You can fix this, Diane. If anyone can make a leopard change his spots you can.

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When I failed to change my loved one, I felt angry, irritated, frustrated, and unloved. Like me, how many of my fellow codependents have echoed, “If you really love me you would stop drinking, using, gambling, lying?”

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Thanks to the 12 Steps, my enabling weekends are behind me. I am learning to love myself. Just for today, I am making the decision to feel zany. When tomorrow comes, I may choose happy, thankful, youthful even!

What about you, what positive emotion and feelings will you chose to wear this weekend?

She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come (Proverbs 31:25 NIV).