My cousin, Mickey, assured me, “God wants you to be a caring person, Diane, but He’s not calling you to be a doormat.”

Mickey’s honest statement was my, “Thanks I needed that!” moment. It got me thinking, Am I that fixated on trying to change the alcohol abuser in my life?

What about you. Are you doing for others what they should be doing for themselves? If you count enabling as one of your best qualities, then maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your motives.

In the end, I learned:

I didn’t Cause the addicts disease.

I wasn’t able to Cure it.

Or Control it.

And I definitely could not Change him.

It was time to Concentrate on me!

Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life (Galatians 6:5 MSG).