No if, ands, or buts about it!
We cannot work the 12-Steps for anyone else! We have to walk our own Steps to recovery and allow others the dignity to step up for themselves.
How many times have we stifled our personal growth to help another? Helping is not a bad thing, as long as we recognize the difference between helping and enabling.
We each must carry our own load. (Galatians 6:5 CEV).