Step 12 – Give it Away – But Keep your Boundaries by Diane Jellen | Jul 15, 2018 | Uncategorized | There are times when being kind gets out of hand and turns into enabling, doing for others, what they can do for themselves. That is never a generous thing to do! If you want to give something away, be sure it is not your dignity and sense of self. Step 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.